Jun: how do you feel when you meet someone from grindr but you don’t know them before:
Jack: nervous, always, it really just depends, but if you’re going just to meet and meet them as a person it’s not about sex it’s still nervous but you’re a little more like relaxed and you’re wondering. BUT if it’s about sex you’re nervous.
Jun: mmm
Jack: a lot more nervous. Again especially if you’re going to them or they’re coming to you cause you just don’t know. You don’t….just… it’s a stranger. And in today’s society you know it’s a scary thought, you hear about people doing this all the time, I mean, I remember on Craiglist you know that guy just went to look at property for those two guys and they killed him. (00:44) you know? You don’t know who to trust. The smart thing to do, the thing that I do is to take precautions be smart, let people know where you’re going. If you’re not fully out, you know, if you’re not, if you’re still someone in the closet um find someone who’s close to you you know you can trust let em know you’re out you’re gay and that you wanna use them as a security blanket. You know there’s a lot of guys who are genuine. They put their real stats their real pics and you know there’s a lot who don’t, I’ve lied. You know? But like you said it’s not about insecurity you know usually it’s about trust trying to meet someone or even just get pics of somebody cause you’re horny. (1:27) you know especially as you get older and you get turned down a lot you’re like you don’t care if they’re telling the truth or not. You don’t care what pics they send you because you’re probably not going to meet and you’re probably gonna have some type of talk, some type of discussion some type of sex talk you’ll exchange picture whether they’re real or not and that’s it you know? You know the genuine ones. You know? You can just tell, you can tell when they send pics like “where’s yours?” “send a pic of you holding your fingers up” you know? Be real. You know I’ve talked to several guys , one guy i’ve been talking to, I hate lying to him, I’m lying to him (2:02). Cause he’s so attractive